Guest Post/ Grandparenting a Child with Special Needs

I put my mother on the spot a couple of days ago and asked her to write a post for me. If you haven't already read 'How Do Grandparents of ASD Children Feel?', please click on the link and do so.


Before reading her words, however, I want you to know the first year of Cody's life was hard. Cody was born with multiple birth defects and we spent a great deal of time either in doctor's offices or in and out of hospitals. If it weren't for my mother, I could have never made it through that first year. She was by my side every step of the way. Years later, my mom even flew to Oregon twice within a six month period to take care of my younger children while Cody fought for his life in PICU.


From my point of view, grandparents play a significant role in raising a child with disabilities. My mother is an incredible person and I am happy that she wrote the following guest post:

Having Cody for a grandson has been an awesome experience. I can honestly say I would not want Cody to be any different than he is. He is truly a gift from heaven.

Everyone who has the opportunity to know Cody finds out what a great personality he has. I’m sure they will never forget him.

With that said, I have to say it has been hard at times to see my daughter, Cody’s mom, go through some very difficult times with Cody, most of them medical. I marvel at how amazingly strong she has become in facing these struggles.

Cody was my first grandchild. I didn’t have a preconceived idea what a grandchild should or shouldn’t be. I was never disappointed he was born different. My greatest worry has always been whether he is healthy or not.

I love Cody the same as all my grandchildren, we just have a different relationship and bond. I was privileged to be a big part of Cody’s first year. He loves his grandma, and grandma loves him!!